You may have seen it at a play date. Or you may have seen it in a Facebook group for moms. If you are super lucky, you haven’t seen it at all. I’m talking about mom shaming. It often sneaks into conversation when we least expect it, but no good ever comes out of it. Here are four hot-button topics that need the shaming to stop!
Feeding Your Baby
Can we all agree that we need to feed our babies? This is not up for question. For some, that looks like exclusive breastfeeding. For others, that may be exclusively pumping. Some choose exclusive formula feeding, yet others may have a combination of both. Let’s all just agree that babies need to be fed, and we all have permission to feed babies in whatever way works best for our families. You don’t know the reason a family has chosen the method they use, and that’s ok. Let’s just feed the babies.
I wrote my birth plan for my first born, and a c-section was not a part of my plan. I didn’t even consider it an option. So when I found myself being prepped for the OR, I had a million thoughts and fears go through my head. One that I never expected to experience was the shame brought on from other moms who would make me feel less-than simply because I needed a c-section in order to bring my baby into this world safely. I don’t get to decide how someone else feeds their baby, and I don’t need to have an opinion on how someone else’s baby comes into the world either.
We are All Working Moms
It is 2018, and we are all working our tails off. Whether you work from home, work outside of the home, or you are a stay at home mom, we are all working hard to take care of our families. Isn’t it beautiful that it looks different for each of us? Let’s all agree that we are doing our best to care for our families, and just leave it at that.
There is no argument that 2018 moms are winning in the healthy snack category. We have endless healthy options available for us to feed our children. I grew up in the 80s, and snacks looked WAY different. Let’s try not to focus on whether someone is feeding their kids organic bunnies or regular Goldfish, but instead let’s just be thankful we remembered to pack a snack in the first place.
We are all trying to do our best at being mommies. Some days are better than others. Instead of judging others for the choices they make, let’s do our best to lift each other up and encourage one another. We may not all parent the same way, but we all need encouragement along the way.
Wendy is a mother of four who lives in central Illinois where she blogs at TheMessyMom.net.